My husband who has been parenting my daughter for 10 years doesn't want to adopt her after she asked him to be her dad for real and I don't know what to do about our marriage.

Just to clarify there's no way she should divorce this guy right?

It's sad that he doesn't see her as his daughter but he can't help his feeling buts he isn't her Dad. If he just doesn't feel like her Dad it's not a flip switch situation.

Logically it's kind of more impressive that for the last 9 years he has looked after her, cares for her and made her feel super welcome in their home, to the point where he she doesn't even realise it. Not out of parental obligation but because he is a decent person who felt it was the right thing to do

He's a dipshit for letting her call him Dad etc though as its clear there's been confusing signals from him.

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