My husband's best friend recently died & wants to adopt his daughters. I'm nervous I won't be a great mother figure in their lives

When I read your post, I definitely see a person who is ready to be a good mother to these girls. It sounds like most of your worries are about whether or not you're capable of being the mother they need, rather than being worried that this isn't actually what you want.

The fact that you're so worried about their well-being is part of what makes you capable of being a good mother. There are no perfect parents, and if you care about these girls enough to try your best for them, that's what really matters.

One thing I want to point out is that they're old enough that their past can have a profound effect on them. Growing up with a single parent who then ODs when you're 10 can be truly traumatic. How the effects of that will manifest in the future is pretty uncertain. I don't say this to scare you, but more to point out that even if you do everything right, there can still be struggles with things outside of your control.

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