And just to add, the reason I make the kid comparison is from many years of nannying. In order of kids to learn a new behavior, they need consistency. For instance, say a kid throws a tantrum when you ask them to put on their shoes so you can go to the park to play. If you alternately threaten consequences, but don’t follow through/ inconsistantly do and plead with them to stop, they learn that there aren’t really any consequences for the behavior. What’s to stop them from doing it again? However, if you say, cool, we aren’t going to the park until you put your shoes on and it sounds like you need to be sad for a minute, I’ll be in the kitchen when you are ready; kid will probably decide to put their shoes on. So when a justno behaves like a justno, consequences and consistency matter. You are on the phone with them and they start asking when you will be giving them grandchildren. ‘Told you I didn’t want to talk about this, so I am going to go now. Call me when you are ready to talk about something else.’ Click. I’m not saying that this would work, but at the least they should have the consequence of not being around the awesome you because they are treating you badly.