And yesterday they just told my wife that I shouldn’t be going out since I’m not making money. I’m just really confused about the whole situation. I understand where they are coming from but I literally just moved here a month ago, and it’s only natural that I wanted to see more about the country and possibly make some new friends.

I dunno your situation but are you living with them and going out for beers while you're not working & your wife's caring for a 4 month old?

My suggestion is that while you're waiting for your visa, your full-time jobs are now studying Japanese (like HARDCORE man!!), childcare and job-hunting. I mean interview processes often take a few months so you can try to line something up for 'when the visa comes through'. Also once you're working you'll be saying 'I have no time to study Japanese'. So like... do lotsa Japanese study.

I've been married twice (currently married) and went through a messy divorce with my ex but have never had issues with my in-laws. I'm a busy person and this is what I'd be doing... not drinking beers and making excuses.

Not trying to sound harsh BTW (and maybe some of my assumptions are wrong). But yeah - I think ANY in-laws (my parents are strict as fuck Italians who lived in a tent while growing up [escaping war...etc], are both lawyers and make any Asian dragon mother look like a stuffed toy) will wanna see a new dad trying their hardest to learn the language, do a fuck load of childcare and be applying for lotsa jobs (even if you know they're gonna say 'yeah sorry, you need a visa', you can make your contacts now and give 'em another call when the visa comes through).

Those first few years of marriage will test you mate. Truely wish you the best in it all!