Is My Marriage Over Already?

His parents divorced when he was eleven and the forced him to go to therapy because he didn't like his dads girlfriend.

I've read those signs before and don't think they apply to SD. She is scared to be alone in this house but not at school or anywhere else. Part of that may be house size. This house is 3300 square feet. Her dads house was 1600, her mom was in a small apartment. So an adult was always much closer. She's also not used to the noises. It's an older house so it creaks. She's never displayed any other signs of abuse except the anxiety on being alone.

Yes that can be a sign of sexual abuse but it is just as likely a sign of a kids who has gone through a ton of upheaval in her young life. From a detached and drug addicted mom from birth to four, (he didn't divorce her earlier because he had no proof and he was afraid of losing the kids) to her dad divorcing her mom to protect the kids, BM trying to bias SD against her dad and guilting her nonstop, her parents fighting, me coming into her life, new rules, new foods, new house, new school. Horses are more likely than zebras.

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