My messed up, clusterfuck, trainwreck of a life. This is from the heart, and now I'm lost. Enjoy DB.

Getting caught is a concern. And I don’t mean by your girlfriend but by her boyfriend.

This is more likely, yes. If we were to get caught it'd be by him, not by my own gf. Still very unlikely.

I mean he has to have some notion that the person he is living with is having an affair. And if he is abusive, that puts you and her in a very precarious situation.

This is MUCH more likely to happen than getting caught. Their bedroom life is dead, and we already gotta be very careful with not leaving any sort of markings. If he just has that "gut feeling" and says, "you're done hanging out with him", that's much more of a concern than actually getting caught in the act. But for all we know he is cheating on her too, and isn't paying her any mind other than parading her around once a week.

Or he goes after you, and spills it to your girlfriend or hurts you physically.

Doesn't know my address. Doesn't have my gf's number. I'm twice his size, he doesn't own a gun. Not too concerned there.

even worse yet she will need you to support her financially, at which point your girlfriend finds out.

Him breaking up with her or kicking her to the curb before I could provide is something we talked about. She is a caregiver to her parents so she'd just stay with them. But it would change things for sure.

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