The sad thing is my mum is an incredibly lovely lady but as she has gotten older she gets like a dog with a bone with some subjects; stubbornly not letting them go. From a small tiff to something she knows for s long time, she can’t help but bring it up which causes me to get frustrated about. Then it’s ‘you are so over sensitive/ it’s like walking on egg shells talking to you’.

I can’t win, my sister and mother used to come to blows all the time and either she just lets her win all the time or my mother doesn’t drag things on as much as she does with me as my sister has an explosive temper historically.

My sister is gay and lost an ovary years ago due to a gigantic cyst so she doesn’t get bothered. I have diagnosed PCOS (my sister doesn’t, she has just had a rogue one) and I’ve been pretty settled not wanting children since I was 18 and later when I met my long term friend, partner and now husband as we are both on the same page.

My mum doesn’t respect that and has hinted and tried to bully with emotional manipulation the notion to having kids to me and my husband. She barely tries it with him because when she drops a hint he will immediately make it very clear our views, have always been like that and nothing she will say will change her mind.