My mom just told me she’s scared of my dad

I guess it’s a hard pill to swallow. I know my dad is an abusive person, it’s just hard to come to terms that a person you love has major flaws.

For both of their sake, I wish they’d both just file for divorce already. I can’t force her to do anything about it though.

If she decides to take that step , i want to ensure she isn’t alone when she does. I was just discussing with my brother this very same hypothetical situation. We both don’t know how to expect my dads going to react, we don’t expect it to go over well. I would definitely want to be in the house when she does.

Though they’ve both made mistakes I feel like ultimately , my mom is in danger here , and shouldn’t be emotionally abused for her mistakes or made to feel like a prisoner .

Earlier I was angry and frustrated because I felt overwhelmed by everything being dumped on me, and now I feel I’m coming to terms with the reality of the situation.

You’re right, I feel like I have been normalizing this. I think part of me wants hold on to how things used to be , when my dad wasn’t such a dick . I want to believe he isn’t completely shitty inside. It’s tough.

If my mom decides to approach me again, i will have a serious talk with her about what she’s experiencing and what steps I think would be appropriate for her to take.

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