My mom tried to have me arrested yesterday... (Long, possible triggers)

There is nothing my mom has that we would want. When she first had her stroke, relatives from all over basically cleaned out her apartment (I lived across the country and didn't even get there until after it had all been taken). She basically only has stuff that I have given her over the years, she started with nothing when we first got her. Not even a wheelchair, which I had to pay for out of pocket and order. She doesn't even have a Will, as there is really NOTHING to take (not even life insurance, as she can't afford the payments on it and I refused to sink anymore money into her). Seriously, that is why I worked 3 jobs originally when she first got here. She had serious teeth and eye issues. She had nothing to her name, at all. I had to get her on medicaid/medicare/social security, but until that all kicked in - I footed the bill for it all (took about a year or more).

I checked the laws in this state, all that is required of me is to be present for care conferences (and that's not even a requirement per say). That can be done over the phone, and the nursing home is more than willing to call me. I can also fax over any/all signatures needed to release her (if I were to move sooner).

So, yes, I CAN just dump her in the nursing home and go about my life. TONS of people do this to their parents ALL the time, even with POAs. I am in no way bound to stay here any longer than I have, and I won't be forced to. My children and family are officially coming first.

APS is currently aware of my mom's current location. I had to call them once in regard to aunt. I'm not sure what all happened from it, but her drama stopped for about a year.

Basically, as soon as my mom is out of the state...or I am. I can tear up of the POA and go about my life. I will not be shackled by an apparently worthless POA that no one pays attention to (except the nursing home). I'm not required to do anything for her, even with the POA (that anyone AFTER me can get).

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