My mother (40F) admits to using me (16M) to relieve her emotional pain from her childhood.

Emotional abuse often leaves longer-lasting, deeper emotional scars than physical abuse. The way she has treated you is truly terrible. I know it's hard to admit this kind of thing to yourself, but you need to start recognizing her as your abuser. Please do the things that others have suggested, like looking up narcissistic and borderline personality disorders. You can find a lot of resources to help you deal with people like your mother. I was also raised by a narcissist (my father), and it took me years to get over all the ways it left me fucked up as a person. I didn't learn how to have a healthy relationship until my mid-twenties.

I think, as others have suggested, that contacting CPS would be a great idea. They will hopefully be able to help you get some support from therapists and the like. Depending on what state you live in, at 16 you may have the legal right to choose your own school. It sounds like maybe you already did just that, choosing the charter school against your mother's wishes. I would recommend that you get into a public school. You need to be able to get out of the house daily to interact with people that don't treat you like shit.

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