My mother [50sF] is making me [20F] move out after I graduate from college because I am not going to be a doctor. [Long Post]

I understand I'm not entitled to anything. People are missing the paragraphs of text here and focusing on one word of the entire post. Yes, she could have kicked me out when I was 18, and I very much wanted to live on campus. My mother kept me from moving to campus because it's expensive, I would have had to pay out of pocket with loans as I didn't get the scholarships I applied for senior year of high school, and she felt I wasn't ready to move on campus. According to her, I would have lacked the discipline to study instead of spending time with friends, and if it wasn't for her I wouldn't have done so well my freshman year, especially because she made me stay at home. My commute is an hour and a half one way.

As long as I was going to medical school once I graduated, I was going to keep my bedroom and my study here. Suddenly, because I'm going into nursing, I don't need her anymore and so she's moving when I graduate from college into the city. My life would be a million times different right now if I had known from the beginning that staying at home was entirely dependent on medical school. My mother told me several times my freshman year of college that she would support me if I wanted to do something else. I thought parents were supposed to come through for you when you needed them. Tuition for nursing is 26K, and books are 3K. Not only do I now have to figure out where I'm going to live, but I have to find a job and save 30K before I can keep advancing in what I want to do. And I found out about 14 months before I have to know where I'm moving and where I'm going to be working to save this much money. She's putting me up shit creek without a paddle. She has the money saved for nursing school in a college fund. Now that I'm not going into medical school, she's giving it away to my baby cousin, because I can't just use two years and let it sit until I go for my MSN. I would need a parent to cosign a loan. Neither parent wants to, I spoke with my father today.

I have never had a job. My mother wanted me to focus on school, and said if I got good grades that I would never have to work. I would have started working years ago if I had known that I was going to graduate and need 30K to keep going to school after college.

I understand I'm not entitled. But I think what my mom is doing to me is horseshit.

My father was already thinking about moving. He doesn't have a high-paying job because all he has is his high-school diploma. He told me today that rent keeps going up and his salary is staying the same. Except now, he has to look into a two-bedroom apartment. Chances are I will not move in with him anyways. He's expecting me to work part-time during nursing school if I live with him, and that's simply not do-able. I'd rather work and save up so I don't have to work during school so I can be a better student.

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