I have tried this, e.g. making her a coffee. I also brought her treats especially which she simply puts away.

I tried cooking several times with the following results:

-outright asked not to (like, literally in the prepping stages) -told we wouldn't be having dinner (and then half an hour later, we had dinner because my sister in law made a green salad) - been watched by not one, not two but three different people when everyone had forgotten about lunch and I wanted to throw together a quick pasta dish. I am ashamed to admit that I fucked this one up, it was edible but not exactly great. I was just getting increasingly nervous in the kitchen, it just got to me.

This is confusing to me because I used to cook several course dinners and am usually known as a good cook.

Uber doesn't exist here and my parents are horrified at the thought of me calling a taxi. They say they will drive me anywhere, I just need to ask. There is a huge emphasis on not bringing negative attention to the family. Maybe I brought it up in a way they didn't like (I asked if they can recommend a taxi company) but now I feel like just taking one against their wish will be seen as an aggression from me.