She sounds so much like my mother. She can make anything about her. I usually do not engage in any of her attention seeking behavior but every once in awhile I lose it and say something. I think my mom tried that email shit once. I ignored it. She tries facebook crap but I don't follow her. My friends will call me every once in awhile because of her posts, whatever dude. Basically I treat her like a child, I ignore the negative behaviors and reward the positive ones. My mom lived 3 hours away and would show up with little announcement. When I was in hospitalized I was scared to death and tried to call her, she didn't answer the damn phone, but she answered for my best friend.
Then she showed up at my house 4 hours later but never visited me in the hospital when I really needed someone there. We ended moving in with her after the birth of my child. Holy hell she is crazy, she would leave long hateful notes and then forgot about them hours later. She would go on hateful rages and just completely forgot that it happened. Honestly ignoring worked the best. Twice when she was truly cutting or rude in front of my siblings I said something and she actually backed down and once she apologized, but that was more because she was so over the line that even she couldn't twist it around and make it right. Also my mom is always sick, always. It's hilarious I once got her sick living 180 miles away, it was a sympathy illness apparently. She gets the sniffles and it's bronchitis. Anyway I'm most stable kid (according to her) so she put me down as health care proxy, and her doctor will ask me how she is doing I explained some of above behaviors and he said her behavior is because she is depressed, he has upped her meds but it's not helping. My mom needs therapy but she won't go unless I sit outside and cry the entire time.