My mother was murdered 20 years ago - I am now 33 and I still haven’t moved on from it.

I had a very traumatic upbringing. Verbal abuse, physical abuse, dad in and out of jail, abuse of substance from my dad and domestic violence between my parents. Obviously not the same thing as you went through but very traumatic. What really helped me is finding a special friend who allowed me to talk about it endlessly. I still find myself randomly crying and not understanding what happened in the past. I try to wrap my mind around a lot of the events and I still can’t. I have talked about it a lot and I find myself constantly living in fear of what if I find myself in a situation as such. For a long time I kept thinking what if my dad had killed my mom and so on. You may never move on from this but you will learn to live with it. Surround yourself with loving people, join groups for survivors of these traumatic events. Write it down, to our for walks. I am sorry that happened to you. I am sending you hugs.

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