My mother sent my a happy birthday card but then wrote inside how she wanted to die the night before she sent it

I got an email from my sister I went no contact with 6 months ago, my sister had full custody but now her kids want to live with their dad (they’re divorced), my mom is devastated that the family is broken. She secretly blames me for everything including the kids wanting to live with their dad. I think she means well but I feel like she’s willing to sacrifice me for normalcy.

My sister emailed me last week saying she misses me and has been thinking about me and invited me to thanksgiving dinner. She hasn’t even apologized for the final last straw where almost everyone totally understands why it would cause me to go no contact. Everyone understands she has a personality disorder….something like antisocial personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, narcissist personality disorder or some combination. She doesn’t love me and can’t.

She either got through to my best friend or my best friend thinks that me going no contact was wrong. She seriously distanced herself from me and I think our friendship is over.

My mom is being distant, I think because she doesn’t trust herself to not say upsetting things to me.

My mom is falling apart because my sister has driven everyone out of her life. She’s being nice for now and my mom feels bad for her. My sister is in poor health with a mix of real and fake problems. I think she’s made herself sicker for attention.

Today is the first day since I went no contact that I’ve considered just pretending nothing ever happened so that my mom and the kids can have some fake happy family illusion.

Your post made me feel less alone. I hope my comment makes you feel less alone.

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