I totally get this. I have been no contact with my mother for 8 months, and my son is 4 weeks old. It's not like I sent her a Cease & Desist letter, I just stopped calling her after she said some hurtful things and she has never cared enough to initiate contact with me. And my mother is a drunk, but she tries to pretend she's not. She's been a really shitty parent my entire life. I know I'm safer and happier with her not in my life, but it still hurts that she hasn't even tried to reach out. Maybe my brother didn't tell her I had the baby, or maybe she doesn't care because she's drunk. I try to pretend it doesn't bother me, but I dwell on it more than I let on.

I think the reason it hurts is because you look at your kid and you feel this overwhelming love for them. You want to be there for them and support them for every life event, big or small. It's hard to believe that a mother wouldn't want to be there for their kid. But it's true because you're experiencing it right now. It's not your fault, and nothing you did or didn't do would change the situation to what it should be.

I'm sorry you have to experience this. At least you know for certain that your kid will never feel the same thing you do.