My nephew was stillborn. My boyfriend is now telling me I can't go to his funeral and be there for my sister because she smoked during her pregnancy and he is straight edge

Yeah, I'm trying to come up with something concise and meaningful without ranting here, but I would say it would boil down to this for you: you need somebody more emotionally supportive. What if you "slipped up" and did something he didn't agree with? What would he do if that happened to you guys for whatever reason? The biggest thing at the moment is your sister needs you and I can't think of many, if any, more important reasons for you to be there for her. This is such a major thing, and it could be a make or break moment for her.

Talk with your bf about how you feel; about all of this. If he doesn't offer absolute emotional support then I would strongly say get out. Maybe he just doesn't know how to emotionally deal with something like this in his black and white world. I'm still leaning heavily toward you starting to save now to get out ASAP off of what I've read. People can have their own views on topics like this, but family bond and love is so important.

In the meantime, PM me. I'm in to help

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