My (now former) girlfriend just ended things. Could use some cheering up.

I just discovered this subreddit through the random button.

I broke up with my ex-girlfriend in July last year after a 3.5 year relationship. I met her at the beginning of university and became best friends with her very rapidly. We totally clicked. At the time I was really popular and loving life. We became an item, and she started to become a bit jealous of me being around so many girls and stuff. I was madly in love so I allowed myself to let her dominate my life. We both controlled and manipulated each other a shit ton, subtly, over the years. As any couple will, I suppose. During the relationship I stopped tending to certain friendships and I lost a lot of friends. But it didn't matter. I had this wonderful girlfriend and we were doing awesome things together.

We had lived in different continents in the holidays, but together while at university. Ultimately she always wanted to move to another country after university and said she simply could not be bothered to do a long term long distance relationship. And that was that. Graduation was the last day I ever saw her. We went out and got blind drunk and we were just pretending all was good and it was bittersweet as fuck. But then, as she often did when she was drunk, she started talking to other guys for like 20 minutes at a time...

She had done it before a few times... only when drunk. Normally it upsets me a bit but I don't show it. Once she did it on my birthday and it upset me quite a lot. But this time... on the last day I was ever going to see her... jesus christ I flew into the biggest rage of all time. Shit went down. Maybe it's good she ended it so badly so it allows me to see that really I'm glad I'm not with her. Although it's easy to forget that and instead remember the 98% of the time with her that was amazing. It's easy to slip back into really missing that time but it was a long time ago now, really, and my life is different now.

What makes it hard is how boring my life is now. I don't have many friends and not all that much is going on really, but I'm trying to change that.

I don't really know if this is supposed to make you feel better but for some reason I felt this was an appropriate time to get this thing off my chest you know.

But yeah, to respond to your situation. As you say: it will pass. Its hard but you'll get there. Everyone does. Find something to take your mind off it (like books) whenever you start thinking about her, or that life.

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