oh yeah, I've gone through enough internet safety 101 lectures to know not to share personal info like that. He only knows my first name, what my face looks like, and what country I'm in. The reason I know all that about him is that his username of the mediums we used to talked on was his full name (a pretty uncommon one), which I saw as a sign of trust from him to me, since I already knew where he was from and what kind of job he had. We didn't sit down and share our SSNs or anything. He never asked for any personal information from me at all.

He asked me to trust him, so I did. He said he was committing to me, so I committed to him. I'm loyal and one of those people who says "how high?" when asked to jump, so I gave him my trust. Everything he did and said told me that I could trust him completely. I knew on some level since it was online I had to take everything at face value, but he never gave me a single reason to doubt his intentions--if there was a smidgen of doubt I would have emotionally retreated, but there never was. We communicated constantly about where we were at mentally. I get that it could have all been a show, a means to an end, but it never, ever felt that way.

I emotionally over invest in everyone in my life. It's not something I can turn off and I'm aware that I'm doing it. But this just blindsided me because I never picked up on any signals that something was off--and I'm really emotionally/socially intelligent so my feelers for that kinda stuff are crazy hypersensitive.

I guess I'm choosing to believe right now that he isn't doing this on purpose. It might just be dumb hopeful naivety, which might make it even harder to deal with if turns out he really did ghost, but I don't think I can help it.

Thank you for the advice, I really appreciate it.