My parents are getting rid of my cats

I’m so sorry. I wish I could give you some advice, but I don’t know enough about where you are in order to help you retain ownership of your kitties. The best I can suggest is to research ownership laws where you live and see if you can get your kitties back so you can place them where you choose. If you can’t do that, then I would contact the people who your mother “approved” of and they them know that this was all done without your consent or cooperation.

Your mother is horrible for ignoring your wishes. Unfortunately, I don’t think that will ever change unless you take matters into your own hands. That may mean fleeing their “care” without anything to your name.

If you are going to go to Germany with your parents to go to school, I hope you are able to gain some comfort in knowing that your kitties will be well cared for. I sincerely hope the people who have your kitties are good caregivers.

I know it’s really, really upsetting to be in this situation, but trust me when I say this: it will be easier to keep on surviving knowing your kitties are loved and cared for, than not knowing at all. I unfortunately had to leave my kitties behind when I escaped my parents hoard. I had hoped my family would take care of them, but they did not, and they had all disappeared in less than a year, never to be seen by me again. I’ll never know what happened to them. That thought still hurts me now, 19 years later.

There is one little kernel of hope I’d like to give you: you will find another group of kitties to love, when you are ready. They will love you just as much as you love them, and they’ll be there for you when you need comfort. I have had the privilege of being caretaker of two such beauties, and those beauties were there to pull me back from the brink, with some rather forceful nudges and very loud purring.

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