In all reality, I may have legally been an adult in my early 20s, and I was always mature for my age, but looking back, I was not much different than I was in my late teens. I was always a good kid, but I made some stupid mistakes with "friends" as a young adult who got me in some situations that could have cost me my life. I'm not that much older now, but I have grown and matured significantly since then, and my perspective is much different now than it was. On top of that, I now understand why parents are so worried about their children, no matter their age. My parents will care and worry about me no matter how old I am, and you know what? I appreciate that I have such loving and caring parents, and they were never overbearing. Parents sacrifice everything for their children, and they will never stop taking care of them no matter how old they are. It's just part of being a good parent. And yes, the mother said some things that were wrong and hurtful, and I don't think the daughter is being disrespectful at all. But I still don't think it's wrong to want to know where your young adult children are (especially when they are still living with you) so you can make sure they make it home from there safely. I wouldn't expect you to understand how a mother worries for her daughter because you're not a woman in a world full of predators. It sounds like her mom is also having a hard time accepting that her daughter will be moving out, and I can't imagine how that must feel. I'm sure it must be hard to accept a big change like that after spending so many years loving and raising your children. She is likely going through a lot of emotional inner turmoil right now, and she might say hurtful things without meaning to hurt her daughter because she's having a hard time with this change. My point is, I've been where the daughter is, not that long ago, so I can sympathize with her, but I'm also a mother. And yes, I may be a helicopter mom now since I have three very wild, young children, but it's my job to protect them and keep them alive, as well as teach them and watch them grow. And one day, I will be learning to give them space so they can learn and grow and live on their own, and I'm sure I'll make mistakes along the way, like OPs mom. It's not going to be easy. But I will never stop worrying. I will always check up on them to make sure they are doing okay. They will find it ridiculous, I'm sure, but they will understand it all comes from a place of love, from my heart, because I care. Everyone parents differently, and everyone makes mistakes, but that doesn't mean they have any ill intent. Communication and understanding are important to have on ALL sides, and obviously, OP needs to tell her mom how she feels. I hope they can resolve these issues and have a more understanding relationship with each other.