My partner (30/f) has no trouble securing dates with men comfortable with polyamory — while I (32/m) have found it impossible to do the same with women. I feel left in the dust by her experience now. Any tips?

So you have had no dates in the few months you have been open? Polyamory is so imbalanced with regard to poly women getting dates versus their male primary getting dates. This problem is posted on at least a weekly basis in this sub, yet everyone shines on the hapless male partner. In your post, I see all these comments saying, find a hobby, go out and do something with your friends, etc., etc., etc. Same old stuff, just different day/post. None of it addresses the fact that you want to be dating other women, not playing video games, starting a new hobby, playing with your pud, whether it's by yourself or with friends, just to take your mind off the fact that your partner is developing relationships and getting railed by numerous men. You've, in effect, entered into a polyandric relationship dynamic.

You're really left with three options.

1) Drop any reference to being in a poly relationship on your dating profile. That will dramatically increase your chances of finding a date. Some will say that is lying by omission, but I see it as leveling the playing ground. If I date a woman through a dating site, I take it for granted that she is seeing other guys too.

2) Hire sex workers so that you can explore, at least in the sexual arena.

3) Request to close the relationship or break up.

Poly women will always find a plethora of men who want to date them. Poly men will always find it nearly impossible to find a woman who wants to date a man in a relationship. It's the nature of polyamory, which is why I always scratch my head when I see some guy come in here posting about trying polyamory/CNM with their female partner and thinking that they are going to be up to their head in women. The reality is the exact opposite.

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