My partner [30M] of 5 years is not supportive of me [27F] when I need him to be my rock, instead he destroys the little self confidance I have

He wants to be a SAHF? My guess is he feels threatened by your desire to continue your education. If it were up to him he’d probably start the SAHF aka “no work” life now. Maybe people who go back to school choose to delay having g kids until they are done with school and established in careers - I’m guessing around 5 years? He probably doesn’t want to have to work five more years.

My other guess is that he could be projecting his own inadequacies and fear of failure on to you. I am guessing that he is not happy in his current career, but is too scared/unmotivated to change it (instead he’s decided he’ll escape as a SAHF). So when you decide you are going to do something he is to scared to do (education for a career change) it is easier on his ego to tell you that you can’t- but that’s because he can’t. Or thinks he can’t. If you go back to school and succeed then he’ll have to admit to himself that it’s possible and he’s choosing not to better himself. He would rather it was just “too hard” and you were both “too old” so he doesn’t need to try.

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