I can say Im an example myself. I didnt go out of my wy to date black guys at all, but I did sympathize with their 'cuture' and listened to rap feeling like it was 'edgy' and 'real'.

Ive had shit experiences dealing with people I gave chances to. One guy, not black but last name Muhommad, starting jerking off on my floor when I rejected his advances. Another guy, half black and my best friend fr 5 plus years, choked me with his dick until I threw up. He guilted me for not liking him for years untilI finally gave in, big mistake. I just wanted to be loving and not hateful, I thought hate was the ugliest thing out there and forfeited my own safety to avoid it. I thought putting myself before anyone else was selfish.

The worst outcome of all this is that it took years off my life. I got side tracked because I was so afraid to do well for myself because it felt like doing that was putting other people down. This is what I learned in school. This is how the diversity message made me feel, and I was too proud to say wow this is fucking stupid. So now after years of wasting time trying to include everyone, Im finally doing what helps me. I hope your sister can get there faster than I did because once youre there, the route to happiness is so...so much more clear. Its so close I can taste it.

Sorry to write so much. Im pretty new here and very passionate about how helpful it can be to just let yourself have some hate. You can love yourself and love everyone else at the same time. Theres a line you have to draw to preserve your own security. Some people need to experience hellish things to get there. I wish I hadnt been one of them.