Man.. I’m so so sorry. Never in my life have I ever read a post on reddit and actually cried over a scenario of someone else... I know to a minimum extent the kind of child you’re dealing with based on the actions of my brother. I love him very much, but he’s not like most people in our society.
As much as a stranger can say this and especially a person on the internet who could have no idea what you deal with; I LOVE YOU.
I can’t tell you how much I want to have a conversation with you on the phone anytime or anywhere. It’s difficult dealing with someone like that. My brother was of a similar fashion but your his FATHER for Christ’s sake. I can’t imagine your pain and torment. The important thing is you realize it’s not your fault. People just have different brains and different ways of thinking. I really don’t think you’ll ever understand each other, but I do believe in my heart of hearts that there is common ground for you. Fear not, he is not lost from you. Even being a full grown man, he’s still very young and as hurtful and painful as he is, there is hope for him. I would pay any amount of money if have to have a conversation with you or him. I’m so proud of you for putting up with such things that would make most dads completely abandoned their child as a hopeless cause. You’re a good dad. I promise promise promise you’re a good dad. God bless you sir, and please do not give up hope. If you ever feel the need for the help of a stranger please contact me, I can’t begin to tell you how much confidence wisdom strength and encouragement I want to bestow upon you.
But from this lifeless faceless comment you may or may not read, I just want you to know, bearing your emotions upon any son, daughter, child or even boyfriend of a daughter shows how loving and how willing you are to bare your heart to people you are. That takes so much courage I literally can’t read it without crying.
God speed my friend. You’re going to be okay, never EVER consider yourself a failure because of how your son is. There IS hope for all of us, and people like you with boundless mercy will deliver us all. I hope I hear from you sometime. Again as much as it may or not mean anything to you. I love you man. Call upon me anytime, please.