I dont understand why its such a big deal tbh. Maybe I'm missing something completely but why??? Like I get that the situation isn't ideal but does it really need to get to this point? Imo yes, you should end it because from my perspective based off of what little information I have gathered your sub will benefit from it. Youre hurt because you were "outed"? I understand I sound like a total dick but like... get over it.. or dont.. but don't punish her. Like who cares what these people think? It sounds like a pride and petty controll issue.. but then again I am very open about such things so... I dont understand how it feels when those kinds of boundaries of privacy are crossed. I dont mean to bash you at all.. more just trying to understand better so I can be more understanding of these kind of things.