My teenage son is in denial . He is 17 and was diagnosed a year ago and is livid, still. Adults with aspergers - were you in denial too? Is it best to just have patience and wait or should I force the issue?

I still feel like I have a strained relationship with my parents, especially my mom, over the shit that happened when I was a kid.

I got diagnosed at a young age, and for whatever reason it just rubbed me the wrong way and I hated anything that had to do with AS. I pushed back hard, but my parents didn't seem to care. They read books about autism and AS, sent me to friendship groups in and out of school, sent me to psychologists, sent me to autism camp, tried things out on me that they read in their autism books, and finally, sent me to a post high school program for adults with disabilities... I was so angry, all the time, it felt like no one was on my side, no one cared. I just wanted to be treated like a normal person, and I never got that. The damage from that has been immense, and I've only been able to really start processing it in the last five years or so, I'm 30 now.

I went to college, got a degree, paid off all my debt, and have had several jobs in the field without any real problems. I get along with most people pretty well, and can provide for myself 100%, to give some perspective on where I'm at on the spectrum.

I've never tried to talk to my parents about it, and I don't know if I ever will. Please, for the love of god, don't force the issue. You're going to create a problem far worse than any symptom of AS.

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