Okay well I’m not sure why my post was downvoted so much but if I saw a therapist for 16 years and had not made any improvement I would seriously question if I was wasting my time or not. It’s not meant to be a friendship type situation it’s a functional purpose to help us get better.

Again I am speaking as someone who stayed far longer with a therapist I was not making progress with because he wouldn’t let me go and I had a hard time leaving and in the end it just didn’t help me get better because he hadn’t even given me the correct diagnosis so just something to think about. If it wasn’t a big deal you wouldn’t have posted about it.