You really haven't done research at all to be there for your friends. Most trans people in the beginning years of their transitions feel the need to overcompensate in order 1 not to be clocked 2 to feel actually representing the gender they identify with since we live in such a binary society. You've never even wondered why they do this. It just annoys you.
As someone said in the comments, maybe is just that you should take some distance since your negativity can be perceived for the rest. When one finds something annoying is very hard to actually keep it lowkey even if you think you're the greatest faker.
Idk. I sense a lot of lack of empathy.