This is my wife

I don't disagree we need to take responsibility for the topics we are sensitive about, but we also need to take into account what is worth bringing up.

When I first got married, my husband didn't like the way I folded the laundry and would bring it up every laundry day. Of course I was defensive, but then again, who complains about the way someone does something for you? On the flip side, whenever he did dishes, I would tell him he stacked them wrong in the washer. He was also defensive for the same reasons.

We both had good points, but we also used to argue constantly.

We decided that as long as the trivial stuff wasn't hurting anything, it wasn't worth bringing up. After that it was easier to talk about the bigger things without getting heated.

It's been four years and now we never argue, but every weekend morning we make a big breakfast at home and carry on respectful discussions/debates about life and current events the end up lasting hours, and we are closer for it.

Maybe I still think the dishes need a little space between them to get clean, and the laundry looks like a 5 year old folded it, but I would never trade these things for how awesome things are now.

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