My wife [28F] of 3 years has been cheating on me [36M] for months and I don't know what to do.

Did you guys go to counseling during any of this? I think what she's done is 100% awful and no one deserves to be treated like that in a marriage. I just also think it sounds like she comes from an extremely shitty background full of addiction and possibly some emotional abuse (just a guess from some little things in your post), and her dysfunctional parents getting terminal diagnoses and draining your money and energy PLUS a baby with a birth defect is a whole lot for anyone to deal with. Then add in the fighting with you and probably not getting the support she needed. Since she comes from such an unhealthy background she doesn't sound like she has coping mechanisms at all.So instead of getting professional help and learning to communicate better as a couple, she fell into this fantasy relationship to distract herself and numb her feelings. It's all going to blow up in her face and then she's going to come crashing down really hard. I mean, I still don't think your marriage is salvageable but reading this made me feel really sad for you but also for her. I hope you both get counseling, even if in your case it's just to process this total mindfuck and prepare to be single and all.

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