I’m not sure if my experience will bring you any insight, but here goes. My husband and I agreed that we both wanted kids before we got married. About 3 years after we got married he changed his mind. He has explained his reasons, and while I understand them, I feel like a future that I always envisioned for myself has been torn away from me. It feels like he ripped half the pages out of my favorite book. It’s been 2 years since he told me and I’ve cried about it, raged about it, fought with him about it, even considered leaving, but he won’t change his mind. I love him and I know he loves me and I am going to stay in the relationship. But I often think that if he had had this realization before we got married, I might have made a different choice. It would have killed me to walk away from him, but when I think about the kids I will never have it hurts almost as much as the idea of leaving him. My only advice is to think long and hard about your future and what you hope it will be. Will giving her up hurt more or longer than living your life wondering what it would be like to meet your children? It’s a tough call, and I wish you the best.