my wife nags at me because I go out with friends until late night. how do I help her understand that I want to have fun and live life before having kids ?

Everyone is giving OP crap. I think his time is excessive. BUT this sounds like the old bait & switch. They have been together for 4 years. She knew his modus operandi before she married him and apparently didn't make enough of stink about it to not marry OP.

We need to stop defending women who think this tactic to get a man is OK.

No one defends the bait & switch man (and they shouldn't) who was working while dating but suddenly can't keep a job now that he is married.

OP I personally think your time out is excessive but she married you with this behavior already in effect. It's a matter of whether you feel like your relationship is worth changing for. You are both in the wrong in this situation.

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