just a thought, until you’re ready to hand it over to the medical professionals, can you lie with her as she’s asked and hug her tight for as long she needs? tell your employer what’s going on and why you might need some time away from work (obviously not forever - but you can start with a few days and see if she gets any better) - also you can feel supported too. is there anyone that can drop round food for you both if needs be? supermarket delivery? don’t forget you’re also grieving. every time nature calls, or you get a bit hungry, give her a kiss on the head and tell her you’ll be straight back. you don’t need to say too much at all, just simply be with each other and let physical touch work it’s magic. if not getting better / at the first sign of getting worse then yes i would agree with others on this thread that you may indeed need to get her to hospital. and finally, as someone that has dealt with stress-related eating disorders, i used to sip on Ensure drinks (or similar) to ensure I was getting enough nutrients. They taste really good and do eventually boost appetite. Good luck and keep us posted xx