Sort of, but I was the other guy. She cut off intimacy with her primary when she started crushing on me. She claimed to be polyamorous. There’s very few people who really are, who really maintain the same level of attraction when in full NRE with someone else. Maybe your wife is, unfortunately the risk is pretty high if she’s not.

The second half of my comment was mostly based on what I read here and in r/polyamory. So many posts from men that are borderline suicidal. They liked swinging but have no luck dating on their own and hate life when they are sitting at home alone while their wife is with the boyfriend. The only ones that are happy are the ones that wanted more alone time in the first place or the ones that develop a cuckold fetish, and sorry but I looked through your history and you’re obviously not into that.