My wife wants a "girlfriend"

I'm not disagreeing with the idea that you should have total say in this situation (you should) but I don't see how sleeping with a "best friend" you "go on dates with" "with benefits" could be anything other then intimate. It sounds to me like your wife is asking to be in a poly relationship, not just have casual sex. I see a lot of red flags here personally but I don't know you two.

I'm not saying this is you, but I've seen many instances where a man doesn't feel as threatened by his wife/gf etc being with another woman as he does with another man and I feel like this is sorta fool headed, maybe even a little bit dismissive in a way. As if your wife wouldn't possibly fall in love with another woman and run off in the way she would with another man.

I'm not telling you not to do it, seems like you've had group sex before but I'd be REALLY careful with the way you and her define things like "best friend" "friend with benefits" and "girlfriend" because it sounds to me like she might be asking you for something that you might not be on the same page about.

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