Is it naive to believe in the idea of high school sweethearts?

Is it possible? Of course! There are examples out there if couples that meet in high school or at a young age that work out. My aunt and uncle are still together after getting married at 18 and 20.

The reason it doesn’t for most people is that you change and learn and grow soooooo much in your late teens and early 20s. The common values that you two have, your ideas about yourself, the way you two relate to each other, those are all going to shift and change in the coming years.

So you absolutely don’t need to break up today or walk around thinking that there’s no way it will work out. BUT... do not limit your choices or experiences because of each other. Go to separate colleges or live in separate dorms at the very least. Work to make friends that are totally separate from each other. Join separate clubs and groups. Have your own experiences, don’t turn down going to a party to hang out and watch Netflix together every Saturday (once in a while is fine, but you get what I mean). Read and talk to friends about relationships and identity what is important to you in a partner. Time will tell. Do your own thing, and you’ll see in a few years, after college and your mid-20s, if you’re still together and happy.

In the meantime, pump the brakes on the engagement and children talks. You’re way too young and do not have enough life experience under your belt to really know what you want in a life partner and co-parent. It is great that you two love each other and are excited, but just enjoy this moment for what it is, which is six months into a high school relationship. Good luck!

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