"You need to acknowledge the role you played in the trauma". Thoughts?

Agreed. Babies are completely vulnerable and dependent on others, but for people who are sensitive enough, it's really easy to treat them with respect.

For example, my relatives didn't care what my niece wanted, and kept picking her up even if she clearly didn't want them to. No one else took her feelings seriously. As a toddler, she started biting them if they picked her up. They said I was overreacting or too sensitive, and treated her as if she was "misbehaving." They blamed her for how she protected herself from giants compared to her size.

If I walked in, she came running up to me asking me to pick her up. They were shocked and didn't get why she was different with me, but I think it made that much of a difference to respect a baby's boundaries. It doesn't matter how small or vulnerable someone is, others need to manage their own behaviors to avoid hurting them. Even babies inherently know best what they need.

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