It has been almost 3 months since my ex broke up with me. We talked a couple of times during the first month. But one day, while I was talking to her, my mom told me she was already on another serious relationship (she found out through facebook, in which I had my ex blocked). I was shocked. I haven't felt such a cold wave going up my stomach in my entire life. I got so mad, so furious that I immediately called her. I asked "Another relationship already? You just told me you still loved me, wtf? You said you wanted to be alone for some time, to fight your cancer". You know what she replied? "Yeah, I know, but I didn't plan any of this and he is with me now". After that stab on my heart I decided to go full NC.

So, the message I want to send you, my friend, is: GO NO CONTACT! When the relationship is over, it means it's over! I'm not saying here you'll never be with your ex again or something like that. But the fact is: we need to move on. We need to do this in order to get better, in order to heal, in order to meet other people in the future, even if the person is your "actual ex".

I can confirm NC is "the business" based on my own experience. Of course I'm still hurt. Of course I imagine her with the new boyfriend. Of course I still love her and miss her. But all these feelings are getting less strong everyday.

To sum up with, I am really sorry for your situation, I feel you, but the best advice that I can give you is the famous NC. This thing works, believe me. If you want to talk, feel free to PM me :)