Have you told them straight up that you feel the pcos like symptoms you have are only becoming worse and you'ed like to try Metformin now? I don't know how things are in the UK but maybe before you were so young they were trying to be passive so you could finish growing, hoping it would pass. If you're going in like "I think I have this" and they do some tests and just go "doesn't seem like it," then you go "ok" and go home, it may be they are just doing their job and unless you tell them you want to take it anyways, despite the tests, they won't offer. (obviously I don't know anything just trying to help figure out what the issue could be so you can get help.)

Do you know if specifically they tested for DHEA? Because my dr did blood work the first time and said I was all fine too, but then had to test for that specifically and it was confirmed I had to much testosterone in me.

Don't just make note of your "nasty" symptoms. Google a list of symptoms and make note of all that apply to you. Yes, Rage is a symptom, that's probably where the anger is coming from.

Also, I have pelvic pain without active cysts and I found out it was because I had diverticulitis. Just saying, that pains coming from something even if it's not pcos related.

I really don't know how it's different in the UK but you should go in and tell them all the symptoms you have in connection to it, let it all out if you have to, cry, be a mess if you can, let them see it's really effecting you, when I get nervous I just start telling them exactly how I feel like "i'm worried you won't help me, i'm losing sleep because i feel like i'll never get better, i'm so scared to come in here and talk to you, it's getting worse all the time,it's effecting every corner of my life, I want to try metformin now."

If they still don't help you i'ed be trying to see what you can do to see some other dr. you need help, and my dr even gives me anti anxiety meds I just kind of hold in my pocket and take occasionally to help me and I wish you would maybe ask for something like that as well. I go to some pretty dark ugly places when I get depressed about it all.

One last thing, if you do go in and lay it out there I would ask for the time release Metformin straight off if you can so if you end up being one of the types who can't take the regular kind you don't have to worry about going back and asking again for a different kind.

The Metformin won't get rid of the hair you already have but it will prevent future hair. It won't make you lose weight, but you will be able to lose weight now through diet and exercise. The acne should go down and hair thinning should decrease as well as the mental side effects. Just saying because I don't know how much you know.

Don't doubt yourself so much, maybe try to let yourself know it's the pcos talking and making you feel that way. It helps to think of yourself as a best friend and think how you would react to your best friend, and have your own back like that. Be supportive and encouraging.

You're not evil. Evil people wouldn't make a post like this asking for help or be trying to get help. You just need help and all of us do eventually for something. You can do this. Some of the suckiest parts of dealing with pcos is the shit we have to overcome and go through just to get our dr to help us.

I'm really rooting for you rather you believe it or not. I get mushy like that, I care to much, and I don't have any friends so I have space in my heart to care about a stranger. I hope you get what you need and that it all works for you and you start to feel better. I feel like an idiot when I talk so I usually don't bother lol. But I feel your pain, and I hope any of this information or words might help you in some way.