well, I'm sorry you took it that way. I am a sex-positive woman, so I tried to make sure that people understood what I was saying. I was saying that I would talk to a 15 year old to make sure that the choices about what she did with her body were purely because she felt comfortable with them and wanted them, not because she was pressured or felt she 'needed' to keep her boyfriend. If she is doing what she wants, great- good for her.

I know that at 15, I certainly was not educated about safe sex. So if she is making her decisions based purely on her own desires to have sex, I was hoping her cousin would be a good source of medically accurate information.

And my last phrase "the unfortunate consequences of other people's opinions about your choices" was specifically an attempt to avoid slut-shaming. I have no problem with a 15 year old choosing to do what she prefers. I simply think that all adults should be aware of the effects of their reputation. I would perhaps advice that the girl attempt to be more discreet about her choices until she is able to have friends who are as sex-positive as she is. The same way I would advice an adult not to discuss fetishes at work. Unfortunately in high school, everyone who is different is singled out, and people often do not have friends outside of the high school. So despite the fact that I think it is wrong that she is being called a slut, it is a fact that she is currently being called a slut. She shouldn't have to change her behavior to fit what other people think, and she should be able to involve teachers and students to end bullying. If it were my daughter, I would probably advice her to also be more discrete about her sexual choices. The fact that it was her ex-boyfriend calling her a whore is incredibly hurtful; not sure what can be said to comfort her about that.