It sounds like this child has severe separation anxiety, low self-esteem, and possible attachment issues. The excessive desire for plasters and bandages on minor injuries likely stems from an overwhelming need for attention, reassurance and security. The tantrums are a way for her to maintain control over her environment and exert power over the people in her life, especially her mother.

She clings to her mother and refuses to be separated from her or have her mother's attention diverted because she lacks confidence in herself and her ability to cope without constant supervision and coddling. She has not developed independent thinking or social skills enough to feel secure being away from her mother for long periods.

The fact that she will only allow certain routines and interactions when her mother is not around further shows her dependence on her mother and lack of adjustment to unfamiliar situations. She likely feels deeply insecure without her mother there to reassure her and meet her every need promptly.

Honestly, it sounds like poor parenting and an unhealthy co-dependent relationship between the child and mother have contributed to these issues. The mother needs to stop enabling this behavior by giving in to every demand and tantrum. She needs to encourage the child's independence in a gentle but firm manner. The child also needs occupational, speech and potentially family therapy to help build her confidence and social skills.

The earlier these issues are addressed, the better the long term prognosis. I hope this advice, though blunt, is helpful. Please let me know if you have any other questions.