Listen I’m no therapist nor have I’ve been in a relationship, but I just thought I’d share this. I think a big thing with most people and don’t take this the wrong way you is that they are so focused on superficial things like money, a big ass, when really if you want someone to love and respect you, you gotta love yourself and respect yourself. Embrace your quirks and work on you. Don’t think that things fall out of the sky because you might look good or have money and if they do they won’t last long and chances are you won’t be loved and respected. Those things you listed might get you a Grindr hookup when your older but nothing meaningful. I think you just gotta be you the real you. And if you have to come out for that to happen or talk about your interests with people that share those interests do that. But just don’t think because you don’t have these attributes or have these attributes that means you’ll be lonely forever. Stay true and some one will most definitely at one point fall for you but no one falls for superficial reasons they might pretend to but they won’t really. Stay true and someone will love you.

TL;DR be you and love you first.