I NEED HELP!!!

Hello there OP. I've been through a very similar situation when I was your age. I have a diagnosed mentally ill parent, also manipulative, using my other parent to finance negative patters (in this case it was agressive behavior + gambling). Mental illness is a horrible thing, it does not excuse horrible behavior. I know it's hard to say no to someone who's supposed to be close to you. You want to help them at all costs and see them suffer and anything you do is in vain Bear with me: I know it is very hard to put yourself into this situation, but as someone who experienced this, and has mental health problems because of it, I'm giving you a firm yet gentle advise: let her be hospitalized.

I know this sounds harsh at first but mental health professionals will know what to do with her. You don't. You are young, you are her child, blinded, stressed and full of traumas. You also carry her own genes, which means if you let this loose for a long time you might also be in threat of developing schizophrenia/a related illness. Trust me, you are not ready for that. Nobody is. You should remember that while she needs help, sympathy and empathy, same might apply to you if you don't take care of yourself and your boundaries.

There is also a safety advise I'd like to give you: not all psychiatrists are great. It is true, many people here in this sub could give you excellent examples (hope they will contribute under this comment). I would not wear you down with negative imaginery, but try spotting bad therapists, just in case. There are multiple lists online about how to do it reasonably, but I'd like to recommend a professional content creator who works in the industry:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wfw0OAWwlSA

Also please discuss or tell said professionals about your mom's weed habits, if she has a record of other substance abuse, gambling, inappropiate behavior etc. Please note that you are not against your mum if you are honest with the professionals, you are helping her to recieve the best treatment she can get! Honsty, openness, bravery, girl. No bashing, no anger. Drink some water, big breath in and out. You try your best to help your mum, so don't be afraid to talk to the folk who are trained!

Much love.

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