I’m so sorry he’s doing that to you, OP. I went through a similar situation with an ex, and many other trans guys have as well. My ex got aggressive if I ever mentioned the topic of HRT. There was always some excuse like my OCD, my rough home life, even my race (lol), to rationalize why I must be wrong about being trans. He would also call me selfish and claim I was ruining his sex life. (It’s funny, he identified as bi at the time, but walked back on it and ID’d as straight once we broke up).

The biggest thing I learned from that disaster is that you don’t have to win a “debate.” Your boyfriend is not the judge of whether you’re trans, and you don’t have to win any arguments against the BS reasons he gives you. You have the power to transition anyways, and you have the power to assert who you are despite your husband’s sexual hang-ups about it. It might require some long, serious talks about the future of your relationship. But it is something you have the right to do.