Need to know how I can get over a Oneitis

I'm going to reconstruct your entire world lens.

Listen. There's two types of thoughts. There's thoughts that are going to help you out, and there's thoughts that are going to hurt you.

What you just expressed to me, was a whole lot of ideas that you've implanted in your own head that are limiting beliefs.

They're limiting beliefs because they serve you absolutely no purpose, and they get in the way of your personal growth and development. Fuck limiting beliefs.

"I would love to go ahead and screw some chicks at a party but I literally have almost no social life." Who said you had to have sex at a party? I very rarely hear of guys fucking girls at parties at my small rural school. Backseats, Truck beds, Houses when parents are aware, Back woods, etc.

Is defining yourself as having no social life going to help you or hurt you?

"I am constantly tormented by the fact that I don't really have anyone that I trust enough to turn to if I force this girl to temporarily leave my life."

Helping you or hurting you? What do you need to turn to people about? Why are you so needy towards this girl? Are these even real things or made up in your mind?

"I don't know how to build my own confidence because of that and I feel like I'm just one step behind in everything."

Helping you or hurting you? Fake it until you make it man. Delusion is very powerful.

"I couldn't care less that I didn't really have many friends."

You do care. You're coping. You're defending yourself and your ego man. Stop. Be free of your ego. Why are you defending yourself? Be who you want to be, and "Fuck what everyone else thinks" not because you need to shelter yourself from others' opinions, but because you're fulfilling your purpose in life and nobody in the world can take that from you.

Why cope in life when you can thrive? Reach out and fucking take it. Why do you deserve any less? Be who you want to be, act as you want to act. Become so fulfilled in your own life that you no longer have to guard yourself. People's outbursts towards you should expose their insecurities and lack of higher consciousness, not your own.

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