Need ideas

I’m not sure if this is the right advice but if I was going through a rough patch with my PTSD and I had a partner who wasn’t the best at helping me with it and didn’t really understand I’d want him to sit me down and talk to me about it. Tell her you know you haven’t been the best, you don’t know what to do to help her, and you love her so much that you want to sit down and talk to her about it and find out what she needs and how you can help her the best. 1) it will make her feel heard and cared for and make you look like a damn good husband and 2) it may actually really help. Ask her what triggers her, what exact emotions she feels when she’s going through a rough patch, ask her if she appreciates it more when you’re there for her or when you give her space, etc. Also, express to her how you feel. Your feelings are valid as well and it can be hard being with someone who has PTSD. Tell her how much you want to support her to the best of your abilities, and how you are just lost as to how. Open up the communication between you two, and ask for it to stay open in the future to avoid fighting. I think her seeing and hearing how much you want to know about what goes on in her head and how to help will go a really, really long way.

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