I need a pick me up. My (m 26) best friend of 2 years and girlfriend (26 f) is breaking up with me.

First thing you need to remember is that few of the things people say during a breakup are literal, as most people who are decent and actually tried to enjoy their relationship don't go around rehearsing their breakup speeches.

The fact of the matter is that if she never had a complaint during the relationship and it only took her two weeks away from you (or whatever the cause) to become disillusioned with the thought of spending more years with you and thus spring a breakup on you, then pat yourself on the back and go on your way because that's better than most people's relationships go and it's her fault (not that there is a "fault") for convoluting things.

No, really. It always takes a lot of time to look back and start reflecting about other relationships, but even when your friends are surrounded by active, "functioning" relationships, you'll start remembering every time you heard a "He/She kissed another guy and we had to work on that for a while" or a "They broke my fucking laptop after I've told them for over month to stop balancing large pots of water on their head so they could be really nail their role in The Jungle Book on Broadway. I don't know why I'm basically paying all the fucking bills so they can be an actor when they're not even that good."

Because usually you hear people's problems and think nothing of it. People have problems. It's normal. So the thought that your friends are in a relationship but you're not is, for some strange reason, more depressing than being stuck in a relationship where stupid bullshit that's a lot more needlessly dramatic than what I joked about happens all the time.

The reality is that maybe you're lucky that you gave someone a great relationship and that you can give yourself a clean break and go be happy somewhere else.

And, for the love of God, do give the clean break to yourself. She broke up with you. She ripped your heart out through your ribcage. Break off those splintery shards, put something else that palpitates in there (And as the current resident love doctor I do suggest -whatever it is -that it is compatible with your blood type, however), and seal some new bones over that sucker.

Also, there's definitely no such thing as too much us time if both of you were handling your other responsibilities - which by your age I'd guess is probably the default situation. There are probably completely fucking logical little things you could have noticed sooner and addressed, but yes- you're already overthinking, because the truth is you don't deserve the pain of having someone around who you constantly have to walk on eggshells around just so you could exercise some divine, Gods-given ability to prolong a relationship for another day when you avoid making one cheesy joke that turns her off. Go use that divine ability to woo your boss into giving you a fat paycheck or another girl into giving her your number so you can meet new people and have fun with her friends or just make some damn friends at a new hobby.

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