Need serious advice for a SM

Your soldier is going to hate to hear this, but possibly the only surefire way out of this situation is to divorce her. He’s tried just about everything, and seems to be the only one actually putting in any effort in the situation. From what I’ve read, family of the wife doesn’t even seem to care, literally your soldier is the only one who cares in this situation. And he’s paying the price for it, his career is basically being put on hold for a woman who doesn’t seem to care how much her actions are impacting him.

This is a situation where you have to get very real with this SM. If he 110%, absolutely CAN NOT bring himself to divorce her, then he probably needs to have her committed. As others have mentioned, this is basically a full-blown medical emergency at this point. The soldier in question needs to know how this will play out, I’m sure you’ve dealt with other situations and can relay to him the severity of his predicament.

As that one insurance commercial goes, “we know a thing or two, because we’ve seen a thing or two”. Have him sit down and talk to you and/or other leadership in his CoC that have witnessed/dealt with similar situations, and have them discuss what happened in such previous events. He may not want a divorce or have to commit her, but if he wants to keep his career intact and live a happy, healthy life, something has to give and fast.

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