I question their intentions. Making them annoyed, defensive and feeling unappreciated. I think this comes from growing up. I had an older sibling that I (now) suspect has a bit of a narcissist personality. This sibling would be ask/encourage things that more so benefited her, dish out small put downs, and never a real emotional connection. And to contrast, my father always seemed to look out for my needs and feelings. So, because of this, I think I have developed the tendency to question small slights and expect that I should come first. For the most part I think I can recognize the negative feelings are my insecurity. But, when my hormones are flying, the feeling of the slight is so strong that I question wether I'm right or if it's just that time. I suppose, to often, I let my feelings in the moment win out and question their intent.